Wednesday, January 06, 2010
New Year, New You, New Pole Dancing Routine
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When I jokingly asked my boyfriend if he “would like a pole” for Christmas, I never thought he’d light up SO much. “A pole?” he gasped. “Did you say a pole? Say it again – a pole? Say it again…say it again…say it again!!”
Immediately I became drenched in fear. HELP - I’m going to have to do this. Clearly he would LOVE this and what could be better than giving my man what he loves on Christmas? For a man who’s impossible to buy for, this was the best present I could give.
I guess if you ask any guy if he wants you to transform into a dancing sex kitten for his Christmas he’s gonna say YES. So I, Fairfield County, prep school, of-the-manor-born (or so some people think) girl, set out to find myself some pole dancing lessons, sexy outfits and ultimately - a pole.
Having committed to doing something TOTALLY outside my comfort zone, I began to realize there were quite a few women who were very comfortable with this. Madonna opened the Grammy’s on a pole. Carmen Electra has one, Oprah, Cindy Crawford, Teri Hatcher – several enlightened women are swinging around poles in their bedrooms these days. I’d entered into something that is beginning to and will most likely penetrate all socio-economic classes, if given the chance.
I was way too embarrassed to take group lessons, so I signed up for bi-weekly private lessons with Wendy Reardon, former dancer (and papal scholar!) at Gypsy Rose Dancing. Learning how to sexify my dancing was the goal. I had no idea how quickly I’d meet it, surpass it and actually love every minute of it.
Whoa! Ta Wanda! Was it fun and liberating! I learned pole twirls, butt swirls, wall crawls, chair dancing, teasing, you name it. I dressed up in Pussy Cat Doll outfits every week and danced to my favorite sexy songs while practicing for my honey pie. Was he going to love this! (And, he did.)
Girls and grand dames of Boston – get on it! Forget resolutions, just try something totally outrageous! You’ll feel amazing, believe me. Spin outside your comfort zone. Twirl and bathe in your pure femininity.
This dance will be as much for you as it is for him. Part of the exercise is setting aside all judgment and our New England puritanical outlook on anything having to do with any kind of “adult entertainment.” Empower yourself by using your femininity and sensuality to surprise your guy with a gift he’ll remember forever.
And for icing, you’ll be ashamed of your muffin top, house butt, spare tire no more.
Dance down to Gypsy Rose Pole Dancing, 364 Boylston Street, 3rd floor, Boston, MA, 617-824-0359. What’s more Reardon also has a user manual on pole dancing: The Complete Idiot’s Guide, Exotic and Pole Dancing is available on Amazon.
Tips for your first pole dancing lesson:
1. Dressing sexy is the name of the game. Sweats and sneakers deflate your sexy sass in a second.
2. Wear round toed shoes. Pointy toes may catch on the pole and cause you to trip.
3. Try short skirts with pleats which let you move easily. Also they flare up for a little peek; try a school girl look – MEOW!
4. Layer panties and cute tops and bras for the strip tease. It leaves more time for the climax. Elle MacPherson makes some amazing push up bras and boy shorts, which are all around better than a thong (can we say Too Much Information?) Also check out the Misstropolis article on gorgeous lingerie, “What Lies Beneath.“
4. Forget your (self perceived) flaws - embody the fantastical fantasy you are creating and any and all matronly mush will melt away.
5. If you really are at a loss for what to pull out of that closet of yours, Gypsy Rose has an immense closet of cat suits and costumes.
Comments
If I may provide you with the tiniest bit of advice: a gal who knows how to perform fellatio well will do the trick, so to speak, for most guys, especially if the results of my informal Christmas party poll (a different pole from yours) are at all accurate. A reasonably toned physique, good grooming and great underwear are key, but there is such a thing as trying too hard. And unlike the rowing machine that’s been in the corner of your bedroom for four years, you can’t use the pole as a clothes valet when the novelty wears off. Interesting concept, emulating Teri Hatcher. Maybe you could pitch it as a reality show?
Guys go to strip clubs to get away from this kind of thing and fantasize for a while.
Thank you for your advice Lenore and sharing your so-not-surprising polling results with Misstropolis readers. I’m not suggesting you leave your trick behind or not continue to master it…simply consider what it’s like to be more than a one trick wonder. And, wonder you will until you give stripe tease a whirl!
You can call it trying too hard or imagine that the novelty will wear off. However, props abound and your own sensuality is one not to be overlooked and under utilized. Footloose and fancy free, it can reinforce you really don’t need either pole (pole or poll) for that matter…a seductive dance in some delectable dainties will do anytime. If anything, it’s good old fashioned fun and there’s a reason why men haven’t stopped paying to see it for centuries.
I have been pole dancing for years in private places - dance studios and my home. It is something that I do primarily for me. My husband has only seen me dance a handful of times - he gets more benefit (indirect, it may seem) in my renewed self-confidence and my own opinion that I’m sexy than from actually getting to see me dance. I also am a pole dance instructor, and we have many students who have yet to dance ‘for their man.‘ Performing for the ‘him’ is, oddly as it may sound, typically quite far down on the list of reasons why many women want to pole dance.
Kudos to you, Hadley!
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